Finding Help
Although most of us usually turn to friends first when we are struggling with something, it’s important to recognize when a mental health concern is lasting longer than usual or getting worse. If that does happen, do not try to handle it on your own. Let an adult you trust know about it so you can get help.


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Deciding When to Ask for Help
The brain controls everything in our body: our breathing, speech, movement, heart rate, body temperature, and senses. It also controls the way we think and act. These can all be affected by mental health conditions, which are the result of a complication in the way our brain is working.
So, when do you know it’s time to ask for help?
It’s time to ask for help when our difficulties with our feelings and emotions, thinking, or behaviors:
- Are too intense or cause too much distress
- Last more than two weeks
- Interfere with daily life, causing difficulties sleeping, eating, concentrating, working, enjoying things, or relating to others
- Lead us to withdraw from relationships
- Are accompanied by other problems like misuse of alcohol or drugs, thoughts of self-harm, or aggressive behaviorsSo, when do you know it’s time to ask for help?
- Lead us to dangerous behavior or risky decisions
What does all of this mean for you? It means that if you notice that you feel differently and you don’t enjoy things you typically have in the past — like hanging out with friends, playing on your sports team, making good grades in school, eating when you’re hungry — it’s time to talk to an adult that you trust.
You don’t have to experience these feelings alone. There is always someone in your life that can help when you’re struggling, from parents or caregivers to coaches to teachers to people in your faith community. The important thing is that you tell someone how you’re feeling.
Talk to an Adult You Trust
It might be awkward to bring up the topic of mental health with parents or a family member. You may feel embarrassed or ashamed. But remember that there are lots of people who can be a source of support or guidance, including teachers, school counselors, coaches, club leaders, or faith leaders. Sometimes, a grandparent or older sibling is easier to talk to than a parent. It might be helpful to ask yourself who you would go to if you were having trouble with a friend.
If you do need to talk to your parent or guardian, take a look at our tips on how to start the conversation.
There are also phone, text and chat resources, like Crisis Text Line and the NAMI Teen & Young Adult HelpLine, to help you to get the support you need.

How to Talk to Your Parent or Guardian
Tips for tough conversations about mental health.

Crisis Text Line
You can text with a crisis counselor who is available to provide support 24/7

NAMI Teen and Young Adult HelpLine
NAMI has a helpline specifically for teens and young adults. Get immediate support by calling, texting or emailing.
Ask For Help
Reaching out and letting someone know how you are feeling is the first step to getting the guidance, support, and treatment you need to feel better. Your family may want you to talk to your pediatrician or doctor as a starting place. Another great option is to reach out to your school guidance counselor, nurse, or social worker. These professionals can provide resources to help you.
Consider Talking to a Therapist
If your mental health concern is affecting your schoolwork, your friendships, or your relationships with family, your parent or guardian may want you to see a therapist. Talk therapy is a relationship and an ongoing conversation to help you learn approaches to understanding and managing your feelings, thinking, and behavior.
Many people experience difficulties in school not because the work or responsibility itself is too much, but because they have trouble paying attention, don’t have the mental energy to learn, are too anxious to focus, or have patterns of getting into conflicts with other people. If you are experiencing any of these, therapy can help.
Don’t feel like you have to find a therapist on your own. Your parent or guardian should be involved.
Helpful Info for Parents
Tell your parents to check out NAMI’s guidance on finding mental health care.

We want to hear your story
Tell us how mental illness has affected your life. What has been challenging? What has been helpful to you?