Beyond Growing Pains: Children and Mood Disorders

MAY. 31, 2018

By Luna Greenstein


As a parent, you know your child—their behavior, their character, their attitude—better than anyone. You’ve watched them grow, taken care of them and gotten to know who they are. But what do you do if you notice that they start to change in unexpected ways and begin behaving in ways that concern you? 

It’s easy to label troublesome behavior as “growing pains,” but we can’t brush off changes in behavior if they seem abnormal or excessive, especially if they happen frequently or interfere with our child’s daily routine. When this occurs, it’s possible your child may be experiencing a mental health condition. 

One diagnosis that presents only in children aged 7-18 is called Disruptive Mood Dysregulation Disorder (DMDD). DMDD is a condition in which a child experiences chronic, severe irritability and anger. Primary symptoms include an irritable mood and temper outbursts. Tantrums can occur typically around three to four times a week and will usually be out-of-proportion to the situation. 

A child experiencing DMDD may express their aggression through verbal rages, damaging property or hurting themselves or others. It’s also common that they’ll have difficulty getting along with others (adults and other children). Due to a low frustration tolerance, they may also have difficulty taking part in activities at school and at home, such as sitting through a family dinner. 

Diagnosing DMDD

The diagnosis of DMDD is considered when symptoms occur before age 10 and have been present for at least 12 months in more than one environment (at home, at school, with peers). A diagnosis of DMDD is more common in boys than girls. 

This diagnosis is relatively new to the field of mental health. It was added to the Diagnostic Statistic Manual V (DSM-5) because kids were frequently being misdiagnosed with bipolar disorder. Unlike the episodic nature of bipolar disorder, DMDD symptoms are consistent day-to-day. Most kids with DMDD won’t go on to develop bipolar disorder; however, having a DMDD diagnosis increases the risk of anxiety and depression later in life. 

Additionally, rates of comorbid diagnoses are extremely high. It’s rare for a child or adolescent to have only a diagnosis of DMDD. Conditions that most commonly occur along with DMDD include anxiety, depression and autism spectrum disorder.

My Child is Showing Symptoms—What Do I Do?

Most children have occasional outbursts, however, if your child is often intensely angry and aggressive, they may be experiencing symptoms of DMDD. If you’re not sure what to do, you can start by: 

  • Seeking professional help. This condition requires individualized care, specific to the needs of your child. If this is DMMD, it won’t go away on its own and can evolve as your child matures. Treatment (likely including both talk therapy and medication) can help your child manage their anger and regulate their emotions. 
  • Learning about the conditionResearch the condition and ask your child’s health care provider questions. They can help you figure out how to best support your child. The more information you have, the more prepared you’ll be.
  • Letting your child’s school know. DMDD can impact your child’s ability to thrive in school, interact with other kids or make friends. However, if the school is aware of your child’s condition, educators can help them be successful.

If your child is acting out in a way that seems excessive, don’t assume it’s the nature of childhood. Mental health conditions can begin at an early age, and as the field of psychiatry progresses, we are learning more about conditions like DMDD that specifically impact kids. Help your child by being aware of their behavior and getting them help if they appear to be struggling with powerful emotions. 

After all, no one knows them better then you.


Laura Greenstein is manager of communications at NAMI.


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JUN, 16, 2018 09:34:02 PM
A mom of a moderate MR/DD 24 year old daughter, Microscephaly, Epilepsy, global development delays.This past December she stopped having her cycle and at same time developed severe mood swings...consisted of name calling, throwing things and was physical towards me. this occurred daily, they would last a few minutes or last from the time her feet the floor until bedtime at 9pm. In May this has all calmed down a lot, would this have been DMDD ??

JUN, 12, 2018 12:43:57 AM
Teresa Muhim
Hi do you do this work in uk

JUN, 10, 2018 10:43:12 AM
I have 2 young adult daughters. Both are adopted. One has BPD, she also has substance abuse problems. the other has ADD and anxiety with depression issues.

JUN, 09, 2018 05:46:34 AM
Kathleen Otero
My 27 yr old son has been mentally ill since birth

JUN, 08, 2018 05:23:33 PM
Elizabeth Patterson
I think I might've had DMDD. I'm in my mid-50's and had the same kind of outbursts described in this article. Nobody knew about this diagnosis 30-45 years ago. I was hospitalized at age 19 with anxiety disorder and depression, and returned to the hospital a month later, at 20-my birthday was between hospitalizations and wasn't very happy that year. Now I'm on antidepressants and I'm doing great.

JUN, 04, 2018 08:39:04 AM
All the advice in this blog is good, but in my experience the most important thing is to do your own research because schools and even doctors and mental health professionals often do not understand. I have often had to educate professionals and advocate for my child. Connecting with other parents who “get it” and who know about resources is vital.

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