Zelda Williams Shares a Heartfelt Tribute and Message of Hope

SEP. 08, 2015

By Brendan McLean


 

A little more than a year after her father's death, Zelda Williams posted a moving message and picture to Instagram about living with depression.

"I came to a realization this year that I feel compelled to share here, for whomsoever may need it: Avoiding fear, sadness or anger is not the same thing as being happy. I live my sadness every day, but I don't resent it anymore," she wrote in her post. "Instead, I do it now so that the wonderful moments of joy I do find are not in order to forget, but to inhabit and enjoy for their own sake."

"It's not easy," she continued. "In fact, I'd say it takes much more effort to consciously do than it does to just stay sad, but with all my heart, I cannot tell you how worth it it is."

"And for those suffering from depression, I know how dark and endless that tunnel can feel, but if happiness seems impossible to find, please hold on to the possibility of hope, faint though it may be," she said. "Because I promise you, there're enough nights under the same yellow moon for all of us to share, no matter how or when you find your way there."

Robin Williams died Aug. 11, 2014, after living with depression for years. "His passing reminds us how isolating mental illness can be, but it doesn’t have to be," said Mary Giliberti, executive director of NAMI, in a statement released after the news of his death. "Although there is still much to learn from research about mental illness and suicide, we know that education, support and intervention can save lives."

More than 34,000 people lose their lives to suicide each year. Know the warning signs of suicide and how to help a friend or family member in need. If you are having thoughts of suicide, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255. During Suicide Prevention Awareness Month, we can work together to bring awareness to the issue.

 

 

Moonrise on the lake 🌕 I spent this night shivering and laughing under a clear, cold sky full of stars with people I love just to witness something beautiful. We mooned the moon and laughed ourselves hoarse, and I'm so incredibly grateful for every silly second. I came to a realization this year that I feel compelled to share here, for whomsoever may need it: Avoiding fear, sadness or anger is not the same thing as being happy. I live my sadness every day, but I don't resent it anymore. Instead, I do it now so that the wonderful moments of joy I do find are not in order to forget, but to inhabit and enjoy for their own sake. It's not easy. In fact, I'd say it takes much more effort to consciously do than it does to just stay sad, but with all my heart, I cannot tell you how worth it it is. And for those suffering from depression, I know how dark and endless that tunnel can feel, but if happiness seems impossible to find, please hold on to the possibility of hope, faint though it may be. Because I promise you, there're enough nights under the same yellow moon for all of us to share, no matter how or when you find your way there.

A photo posted by Zelda Williams (@zeldawilliams) on

Comments

Comments
NOV, 26, 2015 10:55:53 AM
David kirk
Thank you Zelda from the bottom of my heart.

OCT, 06, 2015 11:26:03 AM
MikeDenison
Depression kills, steals and destroys countless lives. It is so sad to see young lives lost to this awful illness. I know it is hard, but you should never give up. I battled depression for years, and I am so grateful that I managed to fight that daemon off.
For anyone suffering from depression,
I recommend something that has helped me a lot. It is James Gordon’s system at http://lookingupstuff.com/mentalhealth/2015/02/06/how-to-destroy-depression/
He is a former depression sufferer, and teaches a totally natural 7 step process which relieves depression from your life.

OCT, 01, 2015 11:42:55 AM
Myrith Pettway
Thanks for sharing the beautiful and inspiring post. It means a great deal for individuals who feel alone and alienated. I myself suffer from depression. I contemplate suicide on a daily basis. Some would say I care too much others would say I need help and have no reason to be depressed. But for some strange reason Im still here breathing and existing. Zelda your name is beautiful just like your personality to want to encourage others to not feel alone but to continue to live in search for better days.

OCT, 01, 2015 01:11:09 AM
Leslie
Thanks to Zelda Williams and her message. Mental illness is a difficult illness to have. I have suffered many years with it. And I've learned a lot about it through therapy and otherwise. People with this struggle have to know they are not alone in this and must be taken seriously as with any other illness!!

SEP, 30, 2015 11:55:59 PM
Carrow
Thank you for your thoughtfulness and courage
for sharing about your Dad, Robin.
I am sorry for your loss. I have lost friends who
have taken their own lives.
My brother and I have suffered from mental illness for 50 years. I understand what it is like
to see some one you love suffer and both they and you receive no support, instead we often
are mocked and shunned.
I have met people who have been in jail who
told me they had more opportunity for education
socialization, legal representation, job opportunities and community acceptance than
I have ever experienced.

How sad for us all. I miss your Dad and I understand. Thank you.

SEP, 30, 2015 10:32:29 PM
Joel
Catastrophic depressive episodes are no more a choice than pneumonia or cancer. No one asks to have a mental illness and at no time do the behavioral symptoms of these illnesses become options. How, in this so-called enlightened era, is it presumed that they do?

SEP, 18, 2015 11:37:11 AM
Raquel Dotson
We need to overcome Depression!

SEP, 10, 2015 01:59:36 PM
Monica
Thank you for sharing. It's hard to make friends and family understand what you are feeling and going through. So you put a smile on your face everyday and hope they can't see the pain you're going through. Without the support of my loving husband and a few special people in my life, I couldn't have made it this far. Thank you NAMI and Zelda Williams for the support of so many.

SEP, 10, 2015 09:50:11 AM
Ethel Smallwood
I have suffered depression since 1967 and it was 1994 before I found a drug that helped me at all. Now they have taken Prozac from me as the heart doctor told me that it has caused my heart problems, I am now on my fourth drug trying to find another drug to help. Unless you have suffered depression and been down in that black hole trying to get out you will never understand people who have suffered with this terrible mental illness. The one question I can't find an answer to is why do we give to heart disease, cancer, etc. and you rarely hear a walk for money given for research for mental illness to the degree that is given for those other illness's ???? Mental illness is the worse illness there is! It is also the illness that people don't want anyone to know that you have it as it is a please don't tell anyone you have it illness. I loved Robin Williams and still watch his movies and enjoy them so much.

SEP, 09, 2015 08:19:35 PM
TeresaSmith
i also suffer from depression and anxiety!
No one except those that suffer mental illness
can understand this. If I had diabetes or heart problems, people would understand, but that's what makes mental illness so difficult! People think it's a weakness & it's not real!
The stigma will always be there!

SEP, 09, 2015 07:56:07 AM
Lillian Berger
God Bless You for writing this, for writing this for others to read was an act of courage and many will read it and find there's! God Bless your Dad's memory in helping others! 😘

SEP, 08, 2015 11:19:46 PM
Jonathan Singer
This is a beautiful post. It is clear that her words and the image spoke to many people. I hope they save a life. Speaking of lives, the most recent (2013) number for suicide deaths in the USA is 41,149, not 34,000. (Source: Table 10, http://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/nvsr/nvsr64/nvsr64_02.pdf)

SEP, 08, 2015 09:47:13 PM
Ann
Thank you for sharing. You know what Grief feels like, and the overwhelming pain that comes with that. You DO NOT KNOW WHAT MENTAL ILLNESS is like, weather it be depression, Bi-polar, schizophenria, multi personality, or the many other psych. diagnoses. But, thank you for REALLY trying to relate with our pain and suffering. Your Dad seemed liked an amazing man. I say "seemed", because I was not close to him, you were. I know what I put my own Daughters through, in regards to my mental illness. Maybe, one day, you will be able to tell us how much it affected you, hurt you, sadden you, and scared you. That is the truth I want to hear. GOD BLESS YOU, and your family.

SEP, 08, 2015 09:44:32 PM
Yvonne Clark
I suffer from Major Depression and Anxiety. I struggle everyday to make it through to another day. It's hard and people think that it's simple but it's not. It's easier for me to think that suicide is best due to the struggle. Asking for help is not easy but when it happens take it seriously. This is serious! I appreciate this message and want to Thank Zelda Williams for her message.

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