Self-Help Techniques for Coping with Mental Illness

FEB. 01, 2019

By Emmie Pombo


Living with mental illness is not easy. It’s a consistent problem without a clear solution. While treatments like medication and psychotherapy are incredibly helpful, sometimes people experiencing mental health conditions need to do more day-in and day-out to feel good or even just okay.

Some common self-help suggestions people receive are to exercise, meditate and be more present, which are helpful and work for many people. However, other proven methods aren’t mentioned as often. Many of them are quick and simple techniques that can easily be added to daily routines.

Finding the right coping mechanism takes time and patience, but it can enormously impact how you feel. If you haven’t had success with techniques you’ve tried, or you’re looking to add a few more to your toolkit, here are seven coping mechanisms recommended by mental health professionals worth trying out.

Radical Acceptance

Radical acceptance is “completely and totally accepting something from the depths of your soul, with your heart and your mind,” according to Marsha Linehan (creator of dialectal behavior therapy). Included in this definition is the idea that no matter what, you cannot change a situation. For example, imagine a tornado is coming your way. Obviously, you can’t do anything to stop the tornado; that’s not possible. But if you accept the fact that it’s coming, then you can act, prepare and keep yourself safe. If you sit around trying to will the tornado to stop or pretend that there is no tornado, you’re going to be in real trouble when it comes.

The same applies to mental illness. You cannot change the fact that you have a mental illness, so any time you spend trying to “get rid of it” or pretend it doesn’t exist is only draining you of valuable energy. Accept yourself. Accept your condition. Then take the necessary steps to take care of yourself.

Deep Breathing

Breathing is an annoying cliché at this point, but that’s because the best way to calm anxiety really is to breathe deeply. When battling my own anxiety, I turned to the concept of “5 3 7” breathing:

  • Breathe in for 5 seconds
  • Hold the breath for 3 seconds
  • Breathe out for 7 seconds

This gentle repetition sends a message to the brain that everything is okay (or it will be soon). Before long, your heart will slow its pace and you will begin to relax—sometimes without even realizing it.

Opposite-to-Emotion Thinking

Opposite-to-emotion thinking is how it sounds: You act in the opposite way your emotions tell you to act. Say you’re feeling upset and you have the urge to isolate. Opposite-to-emotion tells you to go out and be around people—the opposite action of isolation. When you feel anxious, combat that with something calming like meditation. When you feel manic, turn to something that stabilizes you. This technique is probably one of the hardest to put into play, but if you can manage it, the results are incredible.

The 5 Senses

Another effective way to use your physical space to ground you through a crisis is by employing a technique called “The 5 Senses.” Instead of focusing on a specific object, with “The 5 Senses” you run through what each of your senses is experiencing in that moment. As an example, imagine a PTSD flashback comes on in the middle of class. Stop! Look around you. See the movement of a clock’s hands. Feel the chair beneath you. Listen to your teacher’s voice. Smell the faint aroma of the chalkboard. Chew a piece of gum.

Running through your senses will take only a few seconds and will help keep you present and focused on what is real, on what is happening right now.

Mental Reframing

Mental reframing involves taking an emotion or stressor and thinking of it in a different way. Take, for example, getting stuck in traffic. Sure, you could think to yourself, “Wow, my life is horrible. I’m going to be late because of this traffic. Why does this always happen to me?”

Or you can reframe that thought, which might look something like, “This traffic is bad, but I’ll still get to where I’m going. There’s nothing I can do about it, so I’ll just listen to music or an audiobook to pass the time.” Perfecting this technique can literally change your perspective in tough situations. But as you might imagine, this skill takes time and practice.

Emotion Awareness

If you live in denial of your emotions, it will take far longer to take care of them, because once we recognize what we’re feeling, we can tackle it or whatever is causing it. So, if you’re feeling anxious, let yourself be anxious for a couple of minutes—then meditate. If you’re feeling angry, let yourself be angry—then listen to some calming music. Be in touch with your emotions. Accept that you are feeling a certain way, let yourself feel that way and then take action to diminish unhealthy feelings.

You can’t control that you have mental illness, but you can control how you respond to your symptoms. This is not simple or easy (like everything else with mental illness), but learning, practicing and perfecting coping techniques can help you feel better emotionally, spiritually and physically. I’ve tried all the above techniques, and they have transformed the way I cope with my mental health struggles.

It takes strength and persistence to recover from mental illness—to keep fighting symptoms in the hopes of feeling better. Even if you feel weak or powerless against the battles you face every day, you are incredibly strong for living through them. Practical and simple methods can help you in your fight. Take these techniques into consideration, and there will be a clear change in the way you feel and live your life.


Emmie Pombo is a student striving to crush mental illness and addiction stigma. She also advocates for the people who haven’t yet spoken honestly about their struggles. Rooted in Florida, Emmie hopes to eventually diminish any lies surrounding the treatable mental disorders that are becoming more and more prevalent throughout the world.


Note: This piece is a reprint from the Fall 2017 Advocate


JUN, 29, 2018 01:21:52 AM
Thank you for this list. I have Bipolar Disorder 1 with mixed episodes and psychotic features. I also have an anxiety disorder. I especially like the idea of radical acceptance. Along with my medications, I'm going to keep these suggestions in mind.

MAR, 28, 2018 06:15:33 AM
This is beautifully written and well needed in the world. I often forget how much the simple little measures I use help me through my anxiety and depression and now you've given me thought to a few more tools to add to my box and share with my fellow warriors, thank you.

MAR, 26, 2018 03:06:31 PM
Trish Christopher
I have Bipolar Disorder and these techniques could prove to be useful.

MAR, 23, 2018 09:46:14 AM
Thank you. Keep up the good stuff.

MAR, 18, 2018 04:19:17 PM
This was informative. I hadn't heard of any of these techniques

MAR, 15, 2018 01:32:02 PM
Carmel Parsons
You are worth the time and techniques it takes to be WHO YOU ARE. Start NOW!

MAR, 13, 2018 10:08:02 PM
Laura Hammond
This advice is so helpful & comprehensive; thank you!

MAR, 12, 2018 08:03:10 AM
Thank you Emmie...... Keep writing and sharing your wisdom. I wish you continued strength and clarity. I know your words will continue to help and support others. We need you and your thoughts in your best fashion. Sincerely.

MAR, 12, 2018 08:01:07 AM
Thnx for the great info.

MAR, 10, 2018 05:43:42 PM
Skip Kuhnen
A lot of very good ways for coping with mental illness. This is cool! I was born with severe SA which led to severe depression & have PTSD, I have most of these techniques in my toolbox and use them daily. They work well which is way cool. I have also done many things way out of my comfort zone to help get control of most of my mental illness. Though at times they try to sneak back in.

MAR, 10, 2018 05:19:01 AM
These are all wonderful suggestions; I use them on a daily basis. In regards to breathing, at times when I'm feeling extra anxious or stressed I find it's easier to simply focus on the sensation of the breath instead of counting. When I'm tense sometimes the counting gets in the way.

Great post!

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